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[BeingMe]

Hi WII! Thanks for your comments. I have checked the book out on the website, and this is what Michele Weiner-Davis said, "If you've ever told your spouse, 'I talk until I'm blue in the face,' or 'It's in one ear and out the other,' stop whatever you're doing and read this book immediately! You're about to discover why talking things out isn't always the best way to get through to your spouse or achieve more closeness and connection. More important, you'll learn exactly what you need to do today to truly transform your relationship forever."

I am definitely going to buy it. I just have a few other books to get through, but I may put this one on the top of the pile.

You know, it's not our R I want to talk about though ... it's the stuff that deals with finances, and decisions about our future, planning, etc. (he does discuss things like taking a job, if it means he has to travel, and I have always been supportive in his career, so seldom am negative about a desire he may have about any particular career move, even if it meant we had to move, although this time I said he should do whatever he wants, but I will not move again).

I want an equal vote in my M when it comes to these things, and I am starting to get really annoyed that my H doesn't 'get it'. I may have to just assert myself, and take over, if he is going to continue to ignore my desire to be included. It would be nice to be able to discuss the problems of our R (such as ML), but I've given up on that, and will just see how it plays out.

Am I expecting too much? I feel like time is running out for my H, and my feet are getting itchy, and heading for the door. And, I just don't know what more I can do. The only control I seem to have is my attitude, plus I have tried really hard to be understanding especially since the business thing didn't work out. I seldom express my thoughts to my H, but rather come here to vent, so we don't fight.

Okay, long post again, and I am getting tired of even thinking about this. I think that's why I just want to run, but I have to also think about my D14, so I have to give it more time. Patience, patience, patience!!!!!