Peicing hurts like hell and is harder than...

[cat03]

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I always call my experience a trial by fire. I'm a Christian, and I fully believe somethings in this life, the hard blows, teach us so much and wake people up who otherwhise wouldnt' have learned any other way. I'm not saying anyone deserves this, I mean, this kind of things make us better persons.

Yea, an unforgiving, angrier man would've told the woman to F'off and forget about it -- my H actually told me that had I been the one who would've done all he did, he would've been too angry to forgive me.

I was a nagging wife who after the kids were born, didnt' pay him the attention I should;ve, I would reject him constantly, being too tired from work and kids. I didnt' give him the respect I should've. That, and problems at work brought upon my H a full MLC heaped with depression and agravated by untreated ADHD. He left, got a lawyer, has an on an off with ow. Got in deep dept and drunk, a man who wouldn't even drink wine. Lied 'til he was caught and ended up a big mess.

I held on tight for 8mths, was a listening ear and got him drs when he realized he needed meds for his depression and ADHD. Eventually he realized, no one really cared for him like I did. I was there to confort him and not ask anything of him. I wanted him back despite his getting a L and talking about selling our home.
We went to C when he came back, to an angel of a C who helped us big time. My H still felt depressed and couldnt' believed he sank so low (the S, the ow who used him and realized she was being used as a crutch by him and told him off)

It has been a long painful road, but now I can say, that I'm happy with him and he is his old self, we enjoy each other's company and plan for the future, there isnt' that dark cloud in his eyes anymore.

And that's the gist of my story, my very first post dissapeared in the archives! I'm a dinosaur in these boards now, he he