...ask away. It is a book, about wives and how they bring down their house w/their own hands. My H has many many issues, the MLC was still waining in the background, so was his depression. The new job was a mixed blessing, it gave him a goal and hope for a better position, though it consumed most of his time. Because of it, he didnt' have much time for me, so our piecing was delayed big time (he had to live away during the weekdays for about 6mths).
I was looking back at my posts of 2006, my H came back in April, by June I wanted to pull my hair and was despairing. Things were settleing down but in August I find the motherload of evidence he had a PA and things were double hard for us. By Jan of this year I was still bringing up A realted stuff and he was just begining to have some normalcy. It wasn't until maybe March or so that I saw him relax and more like the person he was when all was ok. So you see, it took almost a year, same time for him to tell me he loved me.
Momof2
I was home and thinking about my post, and realized it was a bit pushy. If you are not confortable w/him back just yet, then listen to your instinct. About asking questions about the A, you are right. I found out, the harder and the more demanding I was, the more my H clammed up. The gentler and patient I was, the more he'd talk about it; my accusatory tone would bring an end to any A convo.
You dont' need to grill him to ask him when the A is over, it is only understandable-- you are not asking for details, you are asking the most basic question which you need to know. THen comes the part when he must agree all contact must be cut, 100%. I've lost count of how many on this board have suffered greatly because the S is unwilling to stop contact the OP. If it was a PA he MUST get himself tested (a delicate subject to bring up but very necesary.)
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
