She is back because she is vacillating, and she is stuck in her indecision. Ultimately, her indecision, is a decision, and usually the wrong one. In the mean time, you are left dangling, in pain that she is either unaware of, or is ambivalent about.
If you want to call BS on it, then you call BS on the core issue, and that is her lack of commitment.
Her core issue with you is likely in your lack of EMOTIONAL involvement with her.
Quote: "She told me she didn't want that. She's told me that she wouldn't be here if she wanted to be with anyone else. Does that mean anything other than how it actually reads?"
Yes. You are for now, the better choice, and by that I mean the choice that makes her feel less guilty. It's the vacillation thing again.
The whole thing does stink, and she needs to be honest with you. Honest about her real feelings, about her sexuality, and about how the importance of your perception of her is overriding her need to make a decision to either fully commit to the relationship, or leave it.
Oh, and never volunteer to leave, that is like throwing cold water on her. HUGE turn off.
You CAN tell her to make up her mind, and that you won't wait on her forever to do it. That takes away her assumption that you won't just move on yourself. It will also de-feminize you somewhat in her eyes.
Offer her a choice. Either fully engage in the relationship by working with you in addressing any and ALL issues therein, openly and honestly, or you are going to start considering your options.
Let me know how the sex goes after.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
