When I lost interest the other night, I told him I felt really bad/guilty about it because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. He quickly told me to not feel like that at all. That he wants to be the one to be initiating more now even if that means getting rejected now and then. What I should have responded with was that I wanted him to just push a little more. Is that unfair of me? Maybe. I said I was just not into it and he stopped.
Did you know at the time that you could be persuaded? Or did you only realize that in retrospect?
Did you think that if you had told him to persuade you, he would have felt pressured and done it badly? Not that that would have been a bad assumption, mind you, but perhaps that was why you just gave up at that point? Or were you not sure that you could be persuaded? His next step in any case, is to understand that he can and should do a moderate amount of playful, assertive pushing, that you'll sometimes get into the mood, and that when do don't he's not annoying, offending, or imposing on you.
Seriously... a lot of us think that if you're not already hungry for it and ready for it, any sexual overture on our part will annoy or offend you.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
