Oldtimer that helps - thanks. Yeah the interaction was definitely weird but I was having a hard time seeing why - that makes more sense now.
I'm so mentally exhausted. Does this stuff ever come easy??? I just feel like giving up sometimes because it's so hard to get it "right." Not so much giving up on my R with H as just giving up on Rs in general. It feels like it shouldn't be this hard. I know that's not the answer, just fleeting thoughts. I guess I'm like H, just tired of thinking.
About the LL - that actually brings me back to that "mothering" question I had. I am not 100% sure about his LL and haven't felt the time was right to bring up 5LL with him yet. I definitely think he "gives" in acts of service, because he does things for me (big and small) when he seems to be in a close, loving kind of place. I think that's possibly what he "receives" in too as he is usually very appreciative of things that I do for him. I could be wrong, so I do try to cover other possible LLs as well, but if it is in fact acts of service... I kind of get confused on what's showing love in his LL and what's "mothering" or infantilizing the way you described earlier.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
