Do wonders ever cease?

[cat03]

mimi, you are in the rigth track. It is very scary for your H right now, it will be for a couple of months. So easy does it, just lay the offer by him and let him decide just like you are doing. My H went from saying "we'll date and see if we can connect" to asking to move back a week later.

If possible suggest you both go to a MC. Read "the proper care and feeding of Hs" to stop the vicious circle that might've contributed to the strain in your M. Many times, too often, we relegate our H's to the end of the line when we become mothers.

And know that if your H moves back, for a long while he will be mourning and might act aloof and unreachable, it hurts, but we can only wait and know that it must happen, that they need to let go of that old R, and that they can't just be loving and all smiles the minute they are back.
Us LBS want the WAS to pick up where we left off *during the good times* meaning, when there were no problems in the M and we expect them to be loving and expect ILY like nothing had happened.

My H would tell me he felt odd at the beginning, having been in a R so recently and then being w/me, specially about sex. So, it takes lots of time, it's a new R, you both have changed a lot and you both need to learn to know each other again.

I pray your M heals, stay strong)))))))))