This response is actually aimed at AC. I want to point out something you said that he needs to hear.
Quote: "I did not think these issues were severe enough for a divorce but apparently she did. She left me for a younger guy. After I look back on this I realize that I was controlled, manipulated and needed severe help with setting boundaries. My weakness caused her to disrespect me thus causing a lack of desire on her part. "
AC, you need to study this.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.