I'm not saying being a mom or feeling like a mom is a bad thing, but it doesn't correspond well w/ then turning around and changing your mindset to being the sexy, come-hither WIFE and PARTNER that we need to be once the kids are in bed or even when the kids are running around and we look across the room and give H "that look." This stuff gets forgotten so easily and put on the shelf in "real life."
It's a shame that so many of us are taught that this is the way it's supposed to be. Parents tend to believe its their duty to hide the very existence of sex from their small children, and to hide from their older children the fact that they still enjoy, desire, and crave sex, or for that matter even think about sex.
It also doesn't help that we're supposed to spend several of our prime childbearing years being overgrown children and completely abstain from sex and our parents spend that whole time trying to keep us firmly out of the "sexy" mindset and correct us when they find us in that mindset.
Cadesmom, would you say that this is part of what happened to you, that you grew up with the impression that moms weren't supposed to have any sort of sexual thoughts or sexy vibes, or that you spent too long being actively discouraged from being in a sexual mindset before you were finally allowed to grow up?
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
