I am just curious to see how many of us LBS are stuck knowing or wondering if our WAS has someone else. Or if our WAS tell us the truth about why they are leaving. Just wanting to get your opinions.
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
I think my W has a "text friend" that is completely inapproprtiate, but I was calmed down a but by the folks in here, that they are probably just supporting each other. He doesn't even live around here and is almost never up here. But the support from him to get D'd is a bit unnerving. I really don't think about it much, because I have no control over it. I'm here, I am a better man than him, I will win back my wife, and he'll have no say in it.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
DH had an affair 2 years ago, but she recently got married, so I know she's not in the picture. There was another girl at work (25/single/cute/drives a convertible) who he was flirting with (I found the IMs), but he said he put a stop to that right away. Then I made an @$$ out of myself by confronting her one night in front of TONS of people and although things are pretty sketchy, I do remember her telling me she didn't want my husband. I also remember telling her that her relationship with my husband was inappropriate. Her dad left her mom for a younger woman and I remember bringing that up, too... how would your mom feel? Did I mention this was in a HUGE group? Yeah, not one of my better moments.
So the short answer... I think I can say "not now"... but the stress over the A 2 years ago definitely took its toll.
Are you asking how many WAS' we LBS' suspect or have or had an emotional or physical affair? I would guess the number to be fairly high, over 50%. Mainly I think emotional affairs more than anything.
As for my situation, I don't know what to think and know I can't let it control me in any way. I can't control what my wife does or does not do. I can only trust that she does the "right" thing. If having an EA/PA means she finds out our relationship and marriage are more important then who am I to argue with that? Sure it would be hard to deal with but then again the flip side is she would be and want to be with me in a loving, respectful and nuturing relationship.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
Yes, even though she has told me she has no interest. I have caught her in the act and know she's pursuing something that eludes her. She is a broken woman and running to find answers.
I don't see it happening though... more of the same is why I must move on!
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
