Keep in mind, guys, on the "sexy clothes" issue, that we moms don't necessarily find ourselves feeling sexy anymore. No matter what we're wearing!! We may have gained a little weight over the years or just plain feel like a "mom." I'm not saying being a mom or feeling like a mom is a bad thing, but it doesn't correspond well w/ then turning around and changing your mindset to being the sexy, come-hither WIFE and PARTNER that we need to be once the kids are in bed or even when the kids are running around and we look across the room and give H "that look." This stuff gets forgotten so easily and put on the shelf in "real life." Like I've said, it takes effort and most people don't realize that or don't have the energy or want or need to make sure all of this is happening.
I had a HUGE change in my attitude when I dropped some weight during the D bomb sitch. All of a sudden I felt PHYSICALLY like that woman my H married. I had more confidence in anything I wore and I had more confidence in the bedroom and it's made all the difference.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
