Stop making him guess at what you want from him. Men don't read, indeed most don't even comprehend the female mind.
Drop your image, be willing to expose some of the real you to him. Give him a chance to step up instead of worrying that you will scare him off.
Tell him what you like sexually.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
