Men and women can sometimes drastically change their mindset just by changing their clothes. That's the idea behind uniforms and dress codes, after all. Of course it's not foolproof.
I noticed recently that a lot of the cute flats and sandals that used to be everywhere are really hard to find on the shelves these days. Now it's almost all high heels and ridiculously high heels, which means there's not really anything sexy that's also suitable for everyday wear, at least not where I live.
(My perception of sexy shoes may be a bit skewed. From my POV, the sexiest thing a woman can wear on her feet is nothing.)
Which brings us back to being able to get into a sexy mindset without sexy clothes. It may be just a matter of wearing the sexy clothes every once in a while and then picturing yourself in them at other times. There's certainly a refreshing lack of timidity and insecurity involved when a woman pulls it off just right. And I've found that when either partner manages to get into the right mindset, the other partner finds it much easier to follow along.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
