Oh, D, that does sound like one of those nightmarish days. I hate them! I think it's the constant self-talk - that voice inside that's arguing over whether any action is the right one, if anything done will hurt any progress, how anything seems to be my fault and not his ... you know - that's the most fatiguing and frustrating!
I don't question your motives behind doing H's laundry. We all have the things we do in order to keep sane, and if doing his laundry feels right for you, go to it girlfriend. My H wouldn't let do his if I offered; I just suggested that he use our machines when the ones at his place weren't working, and he wouldn't go even that far. But as we have shared, your situation and mine seem so different even in the midst of all of our personal similarities.
I hope your day today goes better. I think as far as what to wear - why don't you wait until just before you go. Then you can decide if you are in a more casual and "out with GFs" mood, or if you are feeling strong and sexy.
Exercise for me at the Y; I'm not getting myself out enough these days.
