ERC, you wrote "She is now saying that because of that relationship she was in a bad spot when she decided to marry me. We dated for three years and if I was not a good fit don't you think that she would have recognized it." Don't worry, it's all part of how they re-write history to legitimize what they are now doing. My W told me she was NEVER happy in this R blah blah blah. On the opposite end, we LBS's tend to romanticize and remember those good times! So, take what she says with a grain of salt. You are all bad, the R stunk...OM is her "soul mate" it's all from the same script. It kind of amuses me that the WAS sees all these feelings and statements as so individual but when you read DB and other such books you find that cheating S's all use the same lines but don't realize they are just like all the ther cheaters out there!
