Her reply: "why should I, when I don't even want to". And I thought: yep, OK, why *should* she? And then I thought: hmmm... so why should *I* do all the freaking housework, all the freaking laundry, all the freaking kids' school-runs, meals, bedtimes, bathtimes, when I don't particularly want to either? But I still do 'em.
Sounds familiar... her response, and your inner dialogue. The deal is, my friend, you gotta get past this:
Quote:
Anyway, she could tell that I was a wee bit PO'd by this, although I didn't say, or get angry or argumentative, or anything like that.
Because keeping it inside and building up the resentment is poisonous to the relationship. And its not going to get better unless you let her know clearly ... and often. And yes, it may end up causing all kinds of conflict when you open your mouth about it, but it's just something you have to do and get through if you want to do something besides seethe about it.
