I believe Cemar likes to generalise so much because it makes him feel better in his victimhood. If he can feel like he is part of a brotherhood of male victims of manipulative two-faced LD women it makes him feel better than feeling like he has been singled out for such ill-treatment. Or worse that his OWN behaviour might have anything to do with it.

That said, AN, I agree with his basic message which is to GET OUT NOW.

Inertia is what is keeping you in this R, we all suffer from it. But you don't have any kids with her and I guess you don't intend to. Move on and find someone better.

You are doing an excellent job of maintaining your boundaries and these are useful R lessons, but they will be put to much better use elsewhere with better initial material.

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong