Of course I want to save my marriage. I have been through this in the past and for some reason this is much harder. I am trying to be okay, but I'm not. I feel like why should I try if end the end it will end up in divorce. That is where I think he is at, but is scared of making that decision. I wish I had a crystal ball to let me know what is the right choice for me to make. I mas afriad that doing the DB steps will be a watse of time and nothing I do can change his mind or soften his heart.