I appreciate the thoughts. Jeff, I think I have read the same things that you have too! Funny! Yeah, I played coy with her. I think I mentioned this before but right after the D went through, I met a gal and totally hit it off with her. We actually dated....and I mean dated for about six months. A very emotional relationship. Not physicial, which was good. I actually never had s*x with her. Eventually I came to realize that she was not what I wanted. After dating her for several months, and some big event came up, I let it slip to the X that I was actively seeing someone. I guess that is about when I started noticing alot of these changes.
I told her that I am not dating anyone right now because I want to be single for a bit. Fly solo.....be with myself for a bit, which is true. I finally feel like I have really hit my stride again. My legs are firmly underneath me, I know who I really am and just need to start re-developing those long-term goals for myself. Thought I wanted to go to law school, but realized that I really didn't. All that work and studying and eventually realize that is not is what I want to do...funny how that happens. She knows that I had an active dating life a few months ago....which I did. I kinda joked that I was the one getting all of the offers and didn't know why. She gave me a ton of compliments, which at the time I thought was to make me feel better but now I am not sure if there was more to those words.
Right or wrong I really have not let her in again...yet. I guess in a way I am really scared to put myself in that position again with her. Am I willing to try...sure. Would I take her back....yes, but in the right situation and terms. Slow, steady and with open communication. The communication that she could not provide before that is needed in a healthy relationship.
Thanks again for all of you. Will keep you informed and keep praying for your situations as well!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
