We've come a long way baby!!!!!

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>>Why do you say it is a good think if he is in limbo?<<

Because that means he's not completely finished with the marriage. Why push someone to stay if they don't know if they want to? You need to have more patience and take the time to try and create a relationship he might want to keep. You don't waste any time doing this, because if he decides it's over you'll be healthier and a more valuable partner for the next one.