A tiny ray of light

[JR2007]

you're not getting played, but I'll tell you what, you have to man up!

Don't ask for hugs, don't act sappy or cowardly. Be a man, stand up, be confident, and be confident in the things you know you have to do right now.

We can question ourselves here. We can show vulnerability here. When we're with our wives we have to be living this stuff, we have to believe it in our minds and hearts or they can feel the uncertainty. Show your wife you are her MAN. No other man can take your place. No arrogance, no controlling behaviors, just confidence in who you are. Your wife does not want to be with a wuss. None of our wives do. At the same time we have to be confident in listening to them, understanding them, FOR REAL, it can't be a game. If it's not for real, it will go back to how it was before the bombs.

Maybe that's why this takes so long, WE have to be REAL MEN. We have to care for our wives more than we care for ourselves, and we have to show them! They don't care about words, they care about actions. Confident, deliberate, responsible actions (with some little surprises throw in periodically) will attract them back to US, THEIR MEN, and keep them here. It is work, it is hard, it has to come naturally.

Build on your little signs, she obviously doesn't mind being with you. You have ample opportunity to show her your changes, your 180's, your confidence. Consider yourself very lucky to have that and play it cool. The OM will go away soon enough. Don't let her get to you with that. It's a BS ploy to piss you off, to see if you'll bolt, to see if you'll revert back to what you were. It won't work.