My Marriage feels helpless III

[andyv]

ERC,

When she mentioned that she wanted to be civil sounds pretty good.

It sounds like a good stepping stone for both of you. At least she is thinking about the future. Don't worry too much, my W is happy now also and wanting to move one with no feelings of remorse, and doesn't take into consideration anyone elses feelings. This is normal (from what I have read).

Both of them really are text book MLCers. As far as full custody, I would refrain from ever mentioning this (or evening attempting it). I can only imagine the "can of worms" you would open if she ever found this out (that you are thinking about doing it). This would really make you the enemy in her eyes. Can u imagine the heartache and stress you will go through afterwards......

Also, you have to do whats best for the girls, and I think the "civil" decision would be the best. I would love to have my DD full time, but I know this is not the right decision for DD (only for myself). Although you are doing a better parenting job than her at the moment.

ERC, keep reading the success stories. This is what keeps my PMA going. Most of the sitches are really so much more worse than ours, with happy endings.

Play the game smart my friend. Your W sounds like she is in a stable and good mood, keep the mood going (regardless of how you feel).

From what I have read in other sitches, when your W gets into this phase (feeling good), she starts to see the sitch a lot differently than when she was mad and angry. The difference is that she will realise many things that she couldn't before, and this will work in your favour.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.