Need help with goal related to physical affection

[Dom R]

disclaimer: not a councellor, just a random male opinion


"Should I wear something downright sexy next time?"

yes!!


well, not slutty, but maybe like you're going to a party to find a date. "nice", isnt good enough.
it kinda sounds like he's interested, and is waiting for you to keep showing him you care enough to be a girly girl for him.

I just sat on his lap and gave him a big hug. Boom! He was kissing me! Like I said, I'm not quite sure what happened.

that's great!

What I think happened, was that you showed him you are interested, and care about him, but let him be the actual agressive one rather than pursue him.

ie: show him you are available.. but then let him pursue you.

that.. and not to mention that most guys are going to find it veerrry difficult to do nothing when a cute girl is sitting in their lap

Hard to believe he's going to want to kiss me because I need help pruning.

its an emotional intimacy builder, not a physical intimacy builder.
first you show him you need him, by asking him for help.
then you tell him/show him appreciation that he helped you. that makes him feel really good about himself, and also shows him that you need him.

(if you bake,and he likes your cooking... bake him a "thank you" gift! )

sounds like your MC is completely right and you need to listen to (her?) more:) ask for specifics from her. right down to "what do i wear, what do i say?"

"i miss you so much i want you to kiss me!!" is needy.

but wearing something sexy, smiling at him gently, leaning close to make your face close to his sometimes (find an "excuse", dont just do it) i think that's some kinds of flirting that could really work for you.

I think it's about coming HALFway to him (or in the case of the lap sitting, 9/10ths of the way to him ) and non-verbally inviting him to come the rest of the way.

PS; I think you shouldnt hang on the hugs until they die. dont cut them short.. but dont just hang on until the bitter end either.
i think touching his back sounds great, if that's something that he has liked. maybe vary things some as well... if he likes you touching his hair.. gently run your fingers through the back, or side of his hair as the hug ends after a while.
or.. strategically turn your head a little, so that as you breathe normally... you just happen to breath in/behind his ear for a second or two and dont forget to smile

A teenietiny bit of perfume, or just some favourite shampoo of his, to excite his nose... is reaaally good as well.

PS; on the guest bed thing... asking for his involvement is maybe too much. maybe if that sort of thing comes up again, just tell him "sure, the guest bed is fine", but then distract him for a while, while you go make the bed so it's ready for him

even when it's ready.. doesnt mean he'll stay there. but if it's not, then he can use it as an excuse to himself to not stay.

better luck next time