Again, tell her that I am off the market and that I would like to take her. Again, lets play it by ear.
As a soon to be single man I have been reading a lot about relationships and dating and attraction. That is all different from DB by the way.
Women like strong, confident, slightly arrogant MEN. Not wimps. They want a challenge. That is difficult to say but true nevertheless.
And it all boils down to your "inner man" - who you are, what you want to be, and that you are self-confident with yourself.
That spells attraction.
The minute you pursue, the minute you ask for dates, dinner, etc the sooner she will lose that attraction you desire.
So, not so much different from DB after all!
There are several resources out there - post your email and I can send. For now, play hard to get without playing hard to get. What?? Yes, play hard to get b/c you are. Imply you are off the market???? NEVER.
You are not only on the market but you OWN it!!!
You plan to see that movie regardless of her reaction or availability. That is the message. How did you ask her:
1) Do you want to go to see this new movie?
What she hears is "Please see this movie with me b/c I am a loser and cannot get a date"
or
2) Some friends and I are going to see Oceans and you can tag along if you like. It will be great fun. I tell you what, I will swing by your place and pick you up at 6:00. That will leave us time for a quick bite before the movie. And I know a great spot after.
Of course you show up alone to pick her up - your friends had last minute plans.
About the kids, I would take a different tack, although I am not against sex!
I would say: You know my biological clock is ticking too. I so know how you feel. Being a parent scares the hell out of me but when that right person comes along I will be ready. After all that has happened to me this past year I know. But that person will have to be special to be the mother of my kids. That is a long term commitment.
