Truly just a general comment here, so, whoever wants to get defensive, go ahead, I don't have anyone in particular in mind. But, if you do find yourself feeling defensive, it may worth be paying attention to. We are rarely defensive about things unless there is some amount of truth in them for us in some way....
Anyway...
It is a very common thing among the LBWs here that they treat their H's like children, infantalizing them in a million small ways. (Yes, I did this to XH.)
I think part of the attraction of OWs is that they treat them like M E N.
Yet, many of the LBWs resist treating their Hs like M E N because they think NOT treating them like children amounts to NOT showing them they love them. But, M E N want love that demonstrates respect, not condescension.
