Does unconditional love mean there is never any confrontation?
No. At least I don't think so... I know Moses and Jesus, and quite a few other characters, whom I don't have time to list, did PLENTY of confronting. One CAN confront... with love. I think, at least. That is part of loving unconidtionally... I think. Now what choices the other person choses to make is their decision.
Fearless, if unconditional love is a part of your belief system, how would you define it?
Good question. I'm getting ready to board a plane so I will have to get back to you on that one. Briefly I will say that my unconditional love is probably different than someone else's.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
Boundaries are something you do to define yourself. Conditions are what you set upon another.
I.e., you tell your child: If you do x, y, z, then a, b or c will happen. Condition.
You tell your spouse: I will not live forever in a sexless marriage. Boundary. Leaves all kinds of room for the other person to make decisions and choices. This defines YOU.
And that does not mean saying something of the sort is not unconditional love. You can still love someone, and not be married to them.
When I hear it, I envision some longsuffering soul who is biting his/her lip while encountering soul-devastating treatment and never speaking truth, never suggesting to the unconditional love recepient that their behavior or attitude is harmful, etc.
Well... keep in mind that I did say, that just because one loves unconditionally, it does not mean that one accepts all behaviors unconditionally.
I would never call Jesus a push over... even though he went quietly toward that cross....
Absolutely not, unconditional love (in my opinion) is not judging others and treating others like you would like to be treated - there is a power much more capable of taking care of the ones that don't
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Absolutely not, unconditional love (in my opinion) is not judging others and treating others like you would like to be treated - there is a power much more capable of taking care of the ones that don't
Thanks, Heywire. This gives me another question though.
What constitutes not judging others?
Never making a mental assessment of what they are doing or saying?
Or just never making a verbal assessment of what they are doing or saying?
How does this work in our interactions with our spouses?
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