My Marriage feels helpless III

[faithisbelieving]

Em...Cunningham's .pdf helps. The N.U.T.S book gives another perspective. I am reading thru it now. Put it on your list (a long one probably like mine).

Trust me...as 25 said above...the life of a doctor's wife on the outside seems very glamorous. NOT. Long hours....pressure...malpractice...egos....
I know several ER docs whose M's are suffering right now. In fact, one of them..his W was/is having a PA with the head L in her firm. Don't hurt your heart by telling yourself that your W found a hottie. Again, everytime someone says to my W, "oh..how lucky you are to be married to a MD", I say to myself, another nail in the coffin. If you enjoy what you do, DO IT..and stay focused

Both of us....have our issues beginning in our childhood. My dad was an alcoholic and my mom fought hard to protect us. He shot down my confidence. You and I didn't have a choice in who our parents were. I, too, similarly, learned to 'fight' by having to be the winner...by escalation...etc. I've spent the last year trying to 'deprogram' that and you must do the same..if you haven't done it already. It's OK Em.....it wasn't your fault...nor mine. We were built that way...we came off a 'less than perfect' conveyor belt.

As for the W....you..and I ..have no control over them. Therefore, the only control we have is over our attitudes and actions. Stay PMA. Believe in yourself. Believe that YOU are the one she should be with and it is HER loss. Ya gotta believe. Trust me...the doc thing won't last.

Finally..the attractive thing isn't about tans and weight, etc. It's about being a leader and believer in yourself..it's about lisening to women. Certainly, staying in shape is one of our N.U.T.S.

Whatever happens to you or, we will come up better on the other side. Yeah...I pray for both of us for miracles. Sometimes, they happen.

Stay attractive.
Be the best father you can.
Hold onto your N.U.T.S.

And, of course............

Strength and honor (make it so).
FIB