That's not pessimism, it's realism. We have to deal in reality or expectations get too high, emotions run too high, etc.
Reality is we're in the middle of D's. However, the way we deal with that determines the next little while of our lives, and potentially the rest of our lives.
I like to think I'm my W's next husband, cuz the old me is dead. She can choose to "marry" me or not, but I'm going to be a WAY better man than she kicked out 2+ months ago. My life is going to be better regardless. Do I want my W to be a part of it and benefit - absolutely! I love her! But if she chooses not to come along, that's her loss not mine.
That's not pessimism, that's realism - dealing with reality will keep you sane.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
