25yearsMLC, I could not find the exact thread that you mentioned in your post. But I did read a number of your other posts and yes my W would have issues with a man working so much. When my W and I first got married her love language was quality time. After I learned how to meet that language it has turned into words of affirmation and acts of service. I have the acts of service down pat, I always try to make my W life easier by helping her out. As for the words of affirmation they currently mean nothing to my W. She has always had problems with her image(even though she is beautiful) and no matter what I told her she never really accepted them to be true. Atleast that is how I percieve it. I am really struggling with how do use words of affirmation with her without coming off as pursueing and pressuring her. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Next, let me know when your in town. We can catch a game and pay ridiculus prices for beer. I would agree that overtime your W will see your changes being permanent and drop that argument. My W hasn't mentioned anything about my changes in a while. Of course when she did she saw them as fake. So I stopped telling her awhile ago how wonderful and amazing of a woman she truely is(minus this BS).
