ERC - you are in chicago? I lived there for 8 years. Still have some good friends back there, and plan on visiting this summer (good way to get out of the house for a weekend and get a PMA). I'll have to buy you a beer or two next time i'm in town.
I think your approach is excellent right now. No more US talks, accept the fact that you two are over and continue to be attractive.
I know my wife thinks its all fake, and i'll change back at some point. I don't plan on it, and I don't know if she'll ever question her actions when she sees my changes are real, but I don't care. My kids deserve the new stronger, more patient me.
I think she believes it's an act on my part to win her back because then she can say she is justified in leaving. So your wife is probably right now lying to herself as well, otherwise she has to face the fact that she has no valid reasons for leaving. Keep up the good fight. Sooner or later than argument has to die, when she sees you continue to grow.
