COG, I am so very happy for you. You have been so patient and we all know how hard that can be! Baby steps to bliss, right!!?? You sound like such a wonderful man & H! Hopefully your W is ready to reciprocate that now.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
Thanks for your responses. Sometimes it takes a long time for us to let down our guard, and accept our own failures. It's much easier to blame the WAS, especially when they're doing really crazy things. So I'm glad that you have had the courage to stick it out this long, because now you'll see the real blessings in coming clean, admitting failure, and letting it go. It's like shedding old skin, and the new skin underneath is bright and beautiful. You can change your life now, you've made the first step, and you will be blessed beyond your imagination.
Keep up the good work!
Love,
COG
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I did'nt know what a baby step was until the bomb about 7 years ago. The way I figured it was, it took ten years to mess the M up, so it'll probably take 10 years to fix it. Definately worth the wait. Not because I got what I want from my W, but because I got what I wanted from ME!
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Hopefully your W is ready to reciprocate that now.
I never knew an onion could have so many layers to peel. It'll be a work in progress forever. My job is to be the H she needs and wants. Now that does'nt mean I can't be ME, it means I have to get to know her better so the ME can tickle the HER in all the right spots.
Thanks for your response.
Love,
COG
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The Lord was present, no doubt He blessed us. I woke up about midnight, my hand was on hers, close to her forbidden zone. So I started praying for guidance. My body wanted to move my hand forward, pushing for more. But my guide reminded me of "Making Her Happy", so instead, I took my hand away. Moments later, I touched her again, then moved away, back and forth, back and forth. Then I heard her whisper my name. I moved over close to her and she said "I feel a presence in this room". Well that's all I needed to hear, so I moved on her. She said she wanted to "go with the feelings", so away we went. Best part is she gave me a big smile this morning, the icing on the cake so to speak.
Thanks for all the input, support, etc. The alpha male coaching, Frankd, and all the ladies input on the baby doll. I actually have not seen the baby doll for a few days, but maybe she tried it on, or at least enjoyed holding it. I'm hoping to see her in it sometime soon.
I'm not going to dwell on this though. I'm gonna keep moving on with life. No expectations other than for her to treat me right, like a man. I'm gonna keep on my John Wayne! She'll be wanting my touch, needing my touch, melting, yearning for me. Oh I'm an ass kicker alright, she's falling now, going down!
But honestly, it's all about the Lord. A couple of weeks ago it dawned on me to pray over my bed, and bedroom. So I've been praying, asking the Lord to come into our bed, our bedroom, and bless our love making. I've also rebuked satan, and all demons and commanded them OUT of our hearts out of our bed and out of our bedroom, in the name of my savior Jesus Christ, my ultimate guide and C. The Lord was with us last night, guiding me, blessing our intimacy. There is NO doubt it was His presence that my W could feel in the room.
So that's it! On to today!
God Bless,
COG
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Praying over the bed! EXCELLENT MOVE and I can't believe it hadn't dawned on you to do that sooner. Sheesh. Talk about not seeing the forest for the trees.
I also can't friggin believe I am so late finding this post. A little birdie emailed me over the weekend and told me to check on you.
Yes I think the baby doll might have had something to do with it, and I think I'm going to go ahead and buy her a little toy too. I asked her if she'd ever tried one and she said "no" with a little grin on her face, so I may just take the risk and get her one. Maybe give it to her the same way.
I don't really see this event as the "start" of something, rather I think it is the "result" of our new R. It started as friendship.
AmyC,
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Praying over the bed! EXCELLENT MOVE and I can't believe it hadn't dawned on you to do that sooner. Sheesh. Talk about not seeing the forest for the trees.
I know, can't figure out how I missed it. I had sort of prayed about it before, but not with the same level of faith as I am now.
Well I'm taking the family on vacation for about 10 days so I won't be around much. I love you all and I'll check in if I can. Take care and thanks for all the help and support.
Love,
COG
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HAPPY FATHERS DAY~ I know you are making beautiful memories,, all my best to you. YOU and your Family deserve all these blessings and many more~ I keep praying for you.... extra prayers never hurt anyone! Love, Ali
