Madonna/Whore Complex Part 4

[COG]

She said her H avoided every assignment the therapist gave them. The therapist told them they wouldn't get anywhere like that. They D shortly thereafter.
I just think it is a bad sign.

What he plans to do is to worm his way out of it the same way he did with Heywyre and his last little indiscretion. Modus operandi. I hope the ST rips him a new one.

Well thanks for the positive encouragement you two. One thing is for sure, when anger, resentment, fear, and jealousy are present, in either partner, progress will be fleeting. I can tell you from experience, a lot of experience, that if enough pressure is put on H, not only will he not do homework, he'll not do ST either.

This is'nt something you can push somebody into, especially a person like Heywyre's H. He's been this way for a LONG time, and it'll take a LONG time for him to heal. There's no quick fix. It's baby steps, from BOTH partners. One person learning to accept the sitch, love unconditionally, and be patient, the other learning to push through the fear and pain they've been carrying, hiding from, most of their lives.

This is a major undertaking. One step at a time. Trust the process, trust God's process, be part of the solution not part of the problem. Throw away the calendar, let by gones be by gones, and love like 1 Corinthians 13.

This is'nt just all about HW's H. It's about her, and it's about all of us too. Laying down our lives for our friends, for what's right. So let's just stay positive, and not nitpick the negatives cause baby, we've ALL got negatives.

Heywyre, visualize your R as you want it, and don't let anyone or anything cloud your vision or get in your way.

You'll have him eating out of your hands, or other parts , before you know it.

Love,

COG