FIB, yes you hit the nail on the head..wimp, wuss, overall too nice of a guy. Very nonconfrontational especially with my W. I have for the most part always let her have her way and control our M. It is unfortunate that it takes something like this to wake me up. The crazy thing is that outside the home I am not the wimp, wuss kind of guy. I have always been the guy that people turn to for advice and to bail them out of jams. I played sports my entire life and was always a leader on the field. Through IC I have learned why I am this way with my W. It is all in how I was raised. My sister is severly bi-polar and my mom might also be though on a much smaller scale. There was always confrontation's in my house. I was either fighting(verbally) or doing my best to stay away from conflict. I at a young age learned, especially with the females in my life, to keep everything to myself and avoid conflict. I live in Chicagoland, work in downtown Chicago in a really tall building(Sears Tower).
I agree with your 4 easy rec's above. My PMA comes and goes but has been a lot more positive lately. Stay attractive, I am working out, lost 30+ pounds and plan on working on the tan this weekend. I'm doing my best to be a strong husband/Dad, I have to love my W from afar rightnow. I do things for her while making it look like I am not doing things for her. Does that make sense? As for the staying focused on my kids, they are the ones keeping me going. I enjoy and make the most out of time that I have with them. I am going to bring them camping this weekend, it should be fun.
As for your pdf, I have David Cunninghams ebook so if you have different one I would love to read it.
Journaling: This morning after my first post my wife started chatting me about my plans for this weekend. I told her what I was planning and she responded with this "ur girls are finally getting the best of us". I told her that "they deserve the best" and that was the end of that. A few minutes later 5D called me and was in a great mood and was excited about this weekend. We are going to have a great time. I only worry about how I am going to be when they go to bed and I am sitting there all alone.
