Decide to be happy everyday, make a concious desicion to BE happy regardless anything. Claim the day for yourself and refuse to loose yet another day in misery. Work out, if you don't already, do things you normally wouldnt' do, if it is joining a class, taking dancing lessons, anything to put a new spin in your life, do it. Do be a listening ear when she contacts you but dont' drop everything to tend to her.
When children are not w/you make sure they know everyday that you love them, always keep in touch w/them,specially the oldest.
Hope the separation give you guys some space and she thinks betters about what she is doing, she sounds as depressed as my H was when he was away, feeling worthless and that all was doom and gloom. I suggest you read "Talking to depression" .
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
