Also, I must have written about this before but when we were amicably splitting up my H had just gone through a phase of watching lots of foreign films. He told me that he had considered having a sort of European arrangement with me where I could have lovers but we could stay married but had decided that he was too American. During this convo, he said something like "Of course, I will probably never be in a relationship again (sigh)". I looked over at him and said something like "Oh, you're pretty cute. I'm sure it will happen." and for just a moment he flashed me his "coy/cute" look and this might seem kind of unbelievable but that might have been the first time that it dawned on my consciousness that he actually acted that way purposefully. So that is why it now makes me pukey when he does it.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver