Over the last 18 months, I watched as my cousin's H was having an affair and she was devastated and advised me to not allow my H into my home or around any of us until be broke it off with OW.
I said I could not do that but she did it with her H.
Then a few times, her H wanted to return home and once again, she put him down with insults, and said to prove to them that OW is gone, and she still would not allow him into the house.
They are going thru a nasty divorce and to this day, she is very nasty toward him and sometimes for no reason.
I am so glad I did not follow her advice.
I truly believe that we must treat the MLCer with kindness, and show that our homes are warm and loving, a place where they ultimately want to come back to.
My cousin is so bitter and regrets her actions but she continues like that and is so unhappy. I feel bad for her but she insisted her way was the way to go. In the end, it was not.
A little bit of kindness really does go a long way.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
