Thanks for the replies and ideas. I *do* have new things to think about.
In response to b4s:
His #1 love language is "Kind Actions." I think he means in the sense of really thoughtful, personal things. I've always done lots of things that I thought were "kind actions", but he says they just made him feel shut out; like I let him off the hook. Mostly this was around running errands and doing household stuff, like shopping, cooking, doing the dishes, waiting on him a bit, cleaning...
My #1 love language is Quality Time, so planning more fun activities would actually be "more of the same." Too bad, since that's what would make me feel better :-)
Me 41 H 42 M 11 years no children Bomb: 10/2006 "I'm better without you than with you." Separated: 12/2006 H moved back: 6/2007
