My Marriage feels helpless III

[andyv]

Hi ERC,

I have always wondered about the "not" dating part.

If our wives are with their OM's, it may take a long time for their R to fizzle out.

I have tried a lot of things, some worked some didn't, but in the end I am finding it hard to be the man that she fell in love with (with all the pressures placed on me due to her actions). I am GALing, trying to keep a PMA, but sometimes I think the thing that hurts me the most is the companionship.

I always wonder if I were to date, that most of the confidence that I had when I met my W would come back, and with that new found confidence, I would get my "mojo" back.

Of course things could go pear shaped with another R whilst trying to DB. But it did cross my mind.