It is great to hear that things are going well for you. Don't ever feel guilty about our sitches because like you said, we draw on your positives.
You have done really well for not looking at the phone records. It won't help you at all. So what if she is still in contact with him, her feelings for you are coming back. Thats the main thing. As soon as you look at those records, and if you see something you don't like, your PMA goes out the window and I guarentee your approach to your W will change. This had been my problem.
I would see my W getting happier to be around me, and even nearly got her to go to the park with Me and DD. Then I did the stupid thing and looked at the phone record and saw that she stayed at OM's house on a Sat night.
That changed my personality, and It in turn soured the goodwill that was happending between the two of us. The park never eventuated due to this reason.
So just keep doing what you are doing, you are doing a great job.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
