Ooops! Accidentially ran those last two threads into each other!!!
Also, finally on the seventh thread I actually had a longer one with a lot of issues raised, questions for others, and answers.
I hope someone in piecing, or separation and divorce, finds some of this helpful. It was definitely interesting for me to look back and see where things were; the pain, growth, etc...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.