Going Dark can backfire. Especially if YOU were disconnected or unavailable to your spouse before. Were you? It can be "more of the same" behavior.
I now know that my W mentioned on several ocasions to her mother etc, that "He would be better off married to his computer" I did spend way to much time away from my W, we had stopped spending quality time together. She did tell me the day she left, that she has felt she was here just to look after me. She also said that she knows I love her, but she can't love me the way I want her to..Not sure what she ment by that?
I do think that i've locked my self away, within my self & let things go the way they have. So I guess I have been unavailable to her.
Up to now it has been me that has intiated all of our contact, which has been for things that had to be done. I was thinking of letting off incase she thought i was just making excuses to call her.
