You know, I don't feel I should really give advice since my DH left, too... LOL!! BUT I think you're MC is wrong about the needing thing. Needy is not attractive. To be WANTED is totally different. Think about that.

The way our C describes it as... a Healthy R is an H... two people standing on their own, but still connected. An A is what we don't want... where you lean on the other person.

Last week, the toilet flusher thingy (arm thingy) broke. I asked DH to look at it and fix it. He looked at it and was going to fix it the next day. I figured screw it... I didn't need him, I'd fix it myself and I did. I told him and he said good job or something like that. I want to show him I can be independent and it feels kinda good.

I don't know how to take your hugs, because DH always kisses me when he leaves. It's so friggin weird. I won't ask why he does it cuz I don't want hear he feels obligated... LOL!! Now I can tell the different kisses... kinda like your longer hugs. I can tell we're making progress when his kisses are softer and longer (not make out kinda kisses, though). Okay, so I think we're making progress then... LOL!!!

I don't know if it's really flirting or not, but I tell DH he smells good... looks good... looks like he's lost weight, etc.

My DH promised he'd keep his wedding ring on. He hasn't worn it for a couple of weeks and has a couple of excuses. I think he lost it in all his moves from hotel to hotel to finally his apt. *I* took mine off and I won't put it back on. If that ring goes back on my finger, HE will be the one to put it on. He noticed it was off this weekend. I told him I hocked (sp?) it to buy new clothes for my new job. Usually I'd say I was kidding or explain, but I just left it. We talked about it at our C appt this week, but he thinks I did it in retaliation. Not really. Just seemed fake to keep wearing it.

I don't know if this helps any... lol... but maybe it will give you things to think about?

Good luck.