My Marriage feels helpless III

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"The last time I brought up scripture she dismissed it."


Anything brought out must be subtle and done in a very indirect manner. One method is you questioning something, throwing out different ideas and then agreeing with her point of view. By agreement you avoid her reacting in the opposite direction just to do so.. to create the conflict she needs to keep the momentum of the argument going. By bringing up questions, different possiblities (without any possible argumentative slant... hope that makes sense), and then ending on agreement, you bring up something she can think about at a later time. The idea at this point is not to convince her one way or another, but to plant the seeds of doubt.

But, do avoid relationship talk and work on friendship when she is present... humor (sometimes a great diffuser to help reduce anger)... friendly touches that wouldn't be interpreted as invasive... funny family memories or sayings...