Oh so wise ROOT.... I have to say that I agree with you 100% about not dating during the divorce, not badmouthing my W. If this ends, I need time to heal and establish a life of my own without my W in it before I can even think about getting involved with anybody else. I am in the process of getting my own life. I have done more for myself in the last few months then I have done in the last couple of years. Like you I lost myself to my family and I was always OK with that. Now I am seeing how unhealthy that really was for me.
She has definantly comeup with a lot of excuses for D'ing me. The people that hear them don't feel they are valid reasons to end a M. But she feels that they are and thats all that really matters.
I am hoping that her faith convicts her enough to give us a try. I do not really know how I can leverage this strength, because she doesn't want to hear what scripture says about M. The last time I brought up scripture she dismissed it. I was not bible bashing just stating a fact and she did not want to hear it. As for other strengths that I can capitalize on I will have to noodle on that for a while. Before this occured I would say that there where a lot of strengths in our M that I provided. Now she dismisses all of me and I can only hope that her faith will convict her to the point of really giving us a try with the OM out of the picture.
My wife called me a little while ago and informed me that 5D decided to jump off the diving board at the community pool that they go to. 5D is not a good enough swimmer to be trying this type of stunt and had to get rescued by the life guard. It was a tramatic experiance for her and now she says she hates the pool. My W also started to think about what if she needed to do CPR on our 5D. I think that thought is troubling her now.
