I've gone dark, too... except to answer emails or IMs. I stayed in bed yesterday morning and made sure I left for the Y before he came by last night. Then this morning, I went to the Y extra early to make sure I wasn't here again. Hello? I left the Y an hour later and he dropped J off AFTER I got out of the shower. When I heard the garage door open, I went upstairs until he left, but that made me feel like a chicken &^%$.
Yesterday, in the IM conversation, he said "I'm working on being your friend, not your nemesis." I think he meant he doesn't want me to be HIS nemesis. All I answered back was "okay".
He also asked about the party I'm going to Friday night and said he was gonna spend time with the fellas. I bit my tongue and didn't ask for specifics. I did say something about if he can find time to hang with the fellas, I assumed we could have date night soon. He said he was just filling in time while I was gone. He told me to not cancel though, that it was fine and I said I wasn't going to. Through further conversation, he said he was talking about "a boys night in" with the kids. I told him good cuz I might need a designated driver and he said he would do that for me.
He emailed me today asking if I was taking the boys to Music on Main tomorrow night and I said yes, did he want to come. He responded "if I do, it will have to be after 8... we'll talk about it tonight". I emailed him back saying I thought that's why he asked. I had planned to do the Y thing again to just be out of the house. So now, I don't know... I guess I'll play it by ear.
He told me to not cancel though, that it was fine and I said I wasn't going to. Through further conversation, he said he was talking about "a boys night in" with the kids. 
I told him good cuz I might need a designated driver and he said he would do that for me. 
