Ok, I know we are all here to salvage our marriage...
When do you say enough is enough? I guess that is a personal choice to make.
H called me today, we got on the topic of the M (I should have known better) and he started in on his typical rant...
That I got everything I wanted out of this marriage and he got nothing. That I did everything wrong, and continue to do everything wrong.
I tried to explain to him, that if we both had gotten what we wanted out of this M, we would not be here right now. I do take alot of blame for our M problems, because I did cause a lot of them, but I can no longer shoulder all of it.
Going on about how in all of the 13 years, he got nothing and gave me everything. He gave I only took. He gave me a marriage, a daughter, did everything and it made no difference.
I have been nothing more than I paycheck! I did (unmentionalbe words) with other men, and they got the best part of me and he got nothing.
I basically had enough of his abuse and hurtful comments. I said f&*k you and hung up. Not the most loving or compassionate response, but hey, I reached my point. I have tried for 18 months, and nothing has changed in the least.
These conversations always end badly. I am suppose to constantly give him a pound of flesh for my past actions, and be loving and compassionate towards him (which I have no problem with), but when he says things that are abusive and I try to convey that they hurt my feelings or how I am feeling about what he says to me...I get the "well you caused this, you did these things, now deal with the consequences"
If he can not forgive me, then fine, I tell him to move on with his life. Do what he needs to do. Then I get, this marriage meant so little to you you are just willing to give it up like that...No matter which path I take, it always is the wrong one to him.
I have a meeting with a lawyer next week to verify what my rights and responsibilites are during this separation.
