Have you gotten the book "After the Affair?" I just picked it up yesterday and started it, but even though you are in C, it could help w/ some perspective from the A POV. Just a thought.

And, yes, your W can change -- the coming home negative/stressed/taking it out on you, the not wanting to have sex, etc., etc. -- I did it when H dropped the D bomb and am happier for it. Didn't know what I was missing in my M/R by not putting in the effort it takes.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10