It is good practice, you also do not want to burn any bridges with you IL if you two stay together, they are also the grandparents. I also would not expect yours or mine to be rude to us, mine are not being overly nice, it is like I said, nothing going on out of the ordinary. Not try to anylize it either, but if I did, I would have to say they all think "her family", that all is going to end well and the family will stay together.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
It's interesting you mention psycho pills in your thread. My wife went and got anti-depressants in November 06, before any of the real [censored] went down in December to now. I remember wondering why she was getting them, things were going pretty well. Well, they weren't going well for her and that was a HUGE sign that I missed. Man, when your eyes are opened, it is a challenge not to get down on yourself, because there is a raft of [censored] that I didn't do that could have kept me from being here. At least I know it now and still have a bit of hope.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
There is hope, that I will keep believing until who knows when. I am tired of going back and forth. So I am staying with the positive one. As for being on anti-depressants, my W has been on them before we ever got married. I can tell a huge difference if she justs skips a day or two. Also when ever she switched meds, emotions would go wierd for a month or two. Is it possible this is what is going on with your W. You might want to look up what side effects are if you know what she is taking.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
I have no idea at this point. I'm pretty sure the one she won't take is Xanax or Zoloft, I actually can't remember, and the other was a weak form of tranquilizer or something.
I should have just realized she needed something when she started taking those when things were pretty good! Except for my job.
We'll see, I have infinite hope. And you're right, focusing on the positive is THE way to go. Add that to not having any expectations and you can be in very good shape.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I actually do not like taking meds, and think alot are made up just so some companies can make money. As for my W taking hers, long ago I would of probably argued with her about them. Then as things went along I actually saw how they did help.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Ultimately, I just piled on too much crap. Not on purpose of course but when you're as selfish as I was, you don't see other people. You see objects. That's why she felt she had to get on the meds again. She hadn't been on them for 10 years! But I've been awakened! I pray she has been too. I think she has, I'd just like to see another little sign one of these days.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Dude, you are her new husband! That's how I look at it. The old marriage is dead, the old Me is dead. It's a new beginning, a new husband that has years invested in the R, loves the W, loves the Fam, wants to be better, IS better. The new M will be better than either of us EVER imagined! That is a PMA that if you can remember it regularly, really helps!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
