I'm so not enlightened. I can't figure my H out but I've stopped trying for the most part. It's hard. Some days suck. Everyone tells me to be patient and give him time - so...there you go. Be patient and give her time. She needs time to heal from the issues.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Generally speaking, WAW isn't good. They go straight to D.
Sounds like your W might just need some time to see some changes.
I know, but I read somewhere that she called herself WAW too. It's cool.
Well my W did go straight to D, I have the papers, remember? She just hasn't done anything, except our one meeting, since - in 2 months! I know she needs time, I saw it in her eyes when we met. She's still there, the W I know and love, I'm just surprised she hasn't done anything when in the meeting she was so adamant about just getting this overwith (early in the meeting, she softened from that as we went along) I thought I'd have something from her by now. I'm glad I don't, just surprised.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
I'm so not enlightened. I can't figure my H out but I've stopped trying for the most part. It's hard. Some days suck. Everyone tells me to be patient and give him time - so...there you go. Be patient and give her time. She needs time to heal from the issues.
And talking it out and being with me even just a little bit won't help? Pushing the envelope just a little to get her to see me, won't help? Again, just curious. It seems like a little "me time" couldn't hurt, but then again, I'm here with you guys, so...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
Ok, I thought you already had before, I get so confused. Not sure about haveing this clear and sober mind sometimes.
LOL, once the hops residue clears out of your brain, you'll be just like new again!
Originally Posted By: JazzzGtr
Yes but WAW actually go through with it.
That's what I thought. That seems like the logical thing. If I was her and really wanted to be divorced, we'd be divorced! I mean even her dad, early on, said she was just going to step right through it and get it done. Yet, here we are. I do take lot of positives from that. And from the meeting we had, and from the way her family is treating me. They're tiny things, but by small and simple things do great things come to pass.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
One weird thing was last time I dropped off S4, I had to go to my SIL's house. She and her husband invited me in and we chatted for like 30 minutes? That was strange to me, doesn't seem like behavior of someone who's sister is about to divorce this guy...I don't know, I don't analyze anymore...
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
You think that's good? That was strange to me, doesn't seem like behavior of someone who's sister is about to divorce this guy...I don't know, I don't analyze anymore...
It is strange, my IL's and SIL / BIL, all know that we are living completely seperate, but when I talk to them or see them, you would never know. It is like nothing in the world is going on or that a D is possible. Makes me wonder sometimes if they know more about what is going on with W than they will ever tell me.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Shoot, if it was me and my SIL was picking up her kid at my house, I'd be like, Hi, Bye! That's it!
Well, as I've said before, they don't have any more say over what happens than we do, so it's really, probably, pretty unimportant. I enjoy chatting with them (a 180 in and of itself) and it's not like I'm missing out on anything else by being nice to them. I really am trying to treat everyone better, not just my W. It's good practice.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
