Wife gone...Is there hope

[Nomopo]

I do get conserned about the lack of contact, but i know I can't change that, it has to be something that comes from my W. With that said, does anyone have any thoughts about this? Am I doing the right thing with the amout of backing off i am doing? & is it wrong to hope that in doing so, it may motivate her to contact me?

To me, this is as tough as anything. It's the whole going dark/dim thing, although with no kids (right?) it is much easier (too easy) for you to have no contact. I hope some more experienced posters will chime in. In the meantime, I would suggest you spend some time reading some of the other forums/posts on this topic, like: Going Dark

This thread is in Staying Solution-Focused Workshop forum. In that thread, see the post by Zebra. Going Dark can backfire. Especially if YOU were disconnected or unavailable to your spouse before. Were you? It can be "more of the same" behavior.

Hope that helps get you started